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DOES A GOOD RELATIONSHIP HAVE VALUE?
What is a great relationship worth to you?
Value can be described in many different ways. What is valuable to me, may not be worth anything to you. Value can be looked at in a couple of specific ways: Money and Time. Financial value is often the easiest to determine – what something is worth in dollars and cents. Ask anyone who has been through a divorce. They certainly know what a bad relationship can cost. A good relationship can lead to shared living expenses, cheaper travel and when we get to that point… dual income! What about time? Time is probably the most valuable asset available to us. Time spent in a bad relationship? – Well, that’s just wasted time, or in a best case scenario, an education.
Time in a great relationship is valuable. Experiences can lead to growth and development. But, how valuable do you consider the negative experiences? Take trust as an example. Trust is of crucial value in a relationship and quite often, when the trust is broken, the relationship cannot continue. Trust is very much comparable to a bank... There are deposits to the ‘Trust-Bank’ and there are withdrawals. If one makes too many withdrawals from the ‘Trust-Bank’, the bank goes broke and there’s nothing left to give. It’s not uncommon for people to find themselves in this situation. They seem to always be giving and giving… and giving. At some point it becomes exhausting and the ‘Trust Bank’ is empty. The end can sometimes be preceded by a sense of apathy, (one of the worst emotions in a relationship) and whether it is overtly or covertly done, the end is nigh. It’s obvious that there is tangible value to being able to trust someone. When your partner is reliable, considerate, thoughtful and engaged in the relationship, it creates a massive amount of value to both people. Is there any value to not trusting someone? Absolutely! It’s called long-term personal health and safety. When you find yourself in a relationship where things don’t add up, or he/she is never wanting to spend time together, or he/she doesn’t occasionally go out of their way to make you happy, it undermines everything. We feel less confident, we start doubting and slowly we shut down. Obviously, this is all of varying degrees. Support from friends and family is always a big help when we find ourselves in a relationship of little value.
So, how do we determine what our relationship is worth? What really brings the value of a fulfilling relationship into focus is when you strip everything else away and ask yourself what’s important? An example would be that of a person facing life threatening circumstances. You’re lying on a gurney, waiting to be ushered into an operating room... Do you turn to your loved ones and ask them to pay the hydro bill? Do we ask them to top up the RRSP’s? Do those moments and conversations revolve around money? Do you have them call the boss to say how enjoyable it was to work with them? NO! We tell our spouse we love them. We tell the kids we’re proud of them. We embrace the vulnerability of the situation and we lean on the people we can trust.
It very quickly becomes clear that good relationships in our life are INVALUABLE.
So, when we’ve decided it’s time to find someone to build a great relationship with, why do we bargain-hunt when it comes to something so valuable? When we pursue a meaningful relationship we accept the fact that gradually we will be letting someone into our lives. Deep in to our lives- we expose ourselves. We open up, and in time, we share everything. Wouldn’t you rather know as much as possible about that person first? Do you value your time? Do you want more positive experiences with dating? Do you want to trust that the person you’re meeting is looking for the same things as you? It’s Just Lunch thinks our members deserve all of this and more.
What if there was a way to know that the person you were meeting shared your values, goals, attitudes and lifestyle? What if you could trust that they weren’t lying about everything for self-serving reasons? We know money isn’t everything, but wouldn’t it be nice to know they were stable? What if it boiled down to chemistry? All you needed to find out was if you were attracted to one another, laughed at each other’s jokes, grew up listening to the same music or made each other feel special? That’s what a matchmaker does. You don’t use a professional matchmaker to get a date… You employ a matchmaker to find a relationship.
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